My boyfriend and his diabetes (type 1) + job… help! (i guess this is a health and relationship question)?
My boyfriend (Sam) is 22 and has had Type 1 Diabetes since he was 3. About 1 year into our relationship, he never really took care of his diabetes properly (i.e. no exercise, bad sleeping patterns, eating the wrong food). It look an 11 day stay in the hospital in December for him to realise what he was doing wrong. He had severe diabetic acidosis at the time (dangerous high blood sugar level) When he came out of hospital, he started taking his insulin properly (4 times a day as reccomended by his doctor) and eating and exercising.
Now there’s a problem. He’s going back to bad habits as currently he is jobless. He keeps saying he’s trying to find a job but it’s getting no where. Now he’s at home all the time, eating wrong and sleeping all day and not sleeping all night. And because he started eating alot out of boredom, he decided without consulting his doctor, to increase his insulin unit from 14 to 24.
Because of this, 2 nights ago he had a dangerous low sugar attack. He had an seizure and was being violent and I almost lost him that night. We had to call the paramedics and they said had I left it any longer or not been there, he would’ve for sure been dead. He doesn’t seem to understand how I feel about this. I’ve hardly slept since then because I’m scared it will happen again.
I don’t mean to be pushy with him, but he constantly talks about wanting a future with me, yet, how can that happen if he doesn’t start looking after himself. In 3 months (I am living with my parents) my parents will be retiring and leaving the country and I want to stay behind because of my job. Sam had plans that we would move in together and start a life together. But cause of his current situation, that’s not possible and now I have to share an apartment with another friend. I don’t know if he’s really trying to get himself together or not. I know we are in times of recession, but it doesn’t stop you from really trying to find a job. He’s been jobless 6 months now. At the same time, he doesn’t look after his health. Even with all this, he keeps talking about our future together (i.e. wedding, apartment.. )
What should I do? Do you think he is even responsible? I feel I can only help him to an extent without doing things for him as I have my own life to plan aswell. Am I being a bad girlfriend? Is it even wrong that I’m constantly worried about his health?? I just don’t want to wake up to find him dead. I’ve lost 2 nights of sleep.
Don’t get me wrong, Sam treats me like a princess. It’s just he’s so stubborn and won’t even have regular check ups for his diabetes and 6 months without a job is a long time.
What can I do??? I feel sooo lost….
